The other day, my uncle Nigel sent me a message on my phone. It’s a short story that has a powerful message that should be given some thought, followed by application, in our daily lives. This story hit close to home and I know it will hit close to home for many of you reading this. So it only seems right that I share this story with everybody, helping us all remember to be mindful of what we say to others, when angry.
The story is called Nails In The Wall, and it goes like this…
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the wall.
The first day they had driven 37 nails into the wall.
Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the wall. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all.
He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the wall. He said, ‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the wall. The wall will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scare just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. But it won’t matter how many times you apologize, the wound will still be there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.’
It was then, that the boy realized all of the pain that he had spread. This moved him to change his ways, because he now knew how powerful words could be, especially when love is absent from them. The boy was forever grateful to his father, for sharing this valuable life lesson.
This story is a great reminder to us all, that we should be more aware of the things we say to others and how we control our emotions. When in a bitter state of mind, it is always best to walk away, cool off, and then come back with a clearer state of mind. I too was like this little boy when I was young, but as I got older I realized the harm I was doing to others as well as myself. It was my grade 7 teachers Ms. D that helped me control my anger, and now, I’m one of the most laid back and calm people, one could know. I owe a lot of thanks to Ms. D.
Make today the last day of letting your anger get the best of you, and gain control of your anger like the little boy. Nothing good ever comes from being angry and saying mean things to others. When you encounter someone who is angry, whether it be; a friend, family member, co-worker, teacher, student, girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband or even a stranger, just go up to them and give them a friendly reminder that they are causing more harm than good.
I’m going to leave you with this verse from the bible that I live by, and keeps me on the right path, let it do the same for you, regardless if religion plays a large role in your life or not…
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
– James 1:1