The mind…it works in mysterious ways and influences the majority of the decisions we make in our daily lives. However, we should really be making a large, if not larger, portion of our decisions with the heart instead. How many times have you let something said to you, harmless or not, get the best of your mind, causing you to get worked up and lead you to make irrational decisions?
I know I have, we’re all guilty of doing this at least once in our lives, and we all know how mentally draining this can be. After getting all worked up, we come to realize that what we were making a big deal of, really wasn’t worth the time or energy. Well I have great news, after taking some time to read this, you’ll possess the tools needed to put an end to this “unique” way of thinking, leaving you feeling revitalized, confident and ready to take on the world as a new you.
A few weeks ago – at the time of this writing – as I was reading one of my self help books I came across a mini chapter about not letting our minds get the best of us, and how things aren’t as bad as we make them out to be. This chapter caught my attention, causing me to think about my life and how I listen to my mind over my heart in most situations, leading me too overreact for no reason. It was this thought that also brought me to the realization that I’m not the only one who is influenced by this type of thinking. In fact, I’ve noticed that the majority of people I encounter on a daily basis go about this way of “thinking”.
The result of allowing mind thinking over heart thinking to be present in our lives, leads us to feeling troubled, worried, frustrated, negative and angry more times than feeling; delighted, positive, relaxed and at peace with ourselves.
A perfect example of mind thinking over heart thinking would be what happened to me a few months ago. While I was at work, playing a game similar to dodge ball with the kids, my right arm was starting to feel a little sore from all the throwing I was doing in the game. Knowing that I’m rehabilitating my arm back to full strength, I should have known that the reason why my arm was starting to feel a little sore was due to the amount of strain I placed on it, while playing with the kids. Instead, I let my mind get the best of me and trick me into believing that I may have re-injured my arm or aggravated it a bit. This caused me to be very paranoid and cautious about my arm for the rest of the day alongside and into the day after. There even came a point where I was icing it like I was injured, alongside asking my Mom numerous times if I am going to be okay. Obviously I was.
I laugh now looking back at how I handled that situation, because in my heart I knew I was totally fine but I was too stubborn and blinded by my mind to hear what my heart was telling me. As you can see, I allowed my mind to take a harmless and perfectly common healing situation, and turned it into a stressful two days for myself. This craziness that I caused for myself resulted in, frustrating my Mom, reduced performance at work, changed my mood from positive to negative and wasted two perfect days of my life that I’ll never get back, all because I listened to my mind over my heart. So you see how important it can be to think with our heart and not our mind.
Our mind is a place where we record data and stores facts, whereas the heart is the bodies life source, which feels, loves, knows, and most importantly houses our souls and God – its more than just something which pumps blood throughout our veins. I know listening to our hearts and not so much our minds is easier said than done, so I have shared some ways you can apply heart thinking in your days.
Instead of acting so quickly to a situation with the mind, as one normally would, simply step back, take a few moments for yourself, and really feel what your heart is telling you. By doing so, you’re simply keeping yourself in a calm state and letting your mind know that you’re taking your advice from a truly pure source in our bodies, our heart. You will know when you’ve achieved this because there is a tranquil feeling you get throughout your entire body, especially in your heart.
Another way to achieve and get the most out of heart thinking would be, using both our mind and our heart as one. I know you may be a little confused by this one because I’ve emphasized quieting the mind and letting the heart speak. But if you recall, “we should really be making a large, if not larger, portion of our decisions with the heart instead.” Well this is where the other outstanding “portion”comes into play when making rational decisions, because the mind creates reasons to back up the hearts decisions, making this process whole. This then influences us to act in the most beneficial way possible, at that given moment in time. This method brings the most balance into our lives, like putting water into a filtration system. What I mean by this is, our minds are like drinkable tap water, safe enough to drink, but still has some contaminates that can be removed. When we put tap water into a water filtration system, it becomes more pure and more enjoyable to drink. The same thing happens when we allow the mind and heart work in sync with each other. These are just a few ways, out of many more possibilities, to achieve what I call heart thinking. Take some time to explore and apply the ones that best suit you.
Funny enough, before writing this, I used the second technique I spoke about to make the proper decision to write now, rather than postponing it for another day. The reason being, at that time my mind was set on playing video games whereas my heart was set on writing. I’m happy that I chose to sit down and really think about this decision, because doing so has forced me to apply one of these two beneficial techniques, alongside helping you, the reader, apply it as well.
Now that you own these new tools, you can continuously grow into the person that you are meant to be and finally put an end to mind thinking and replace it with heart thinking – and even a wholesome combination of the two. Feel free to share these tools with those around you once you have a good grasp on one of the two techniques mentioned. Helping others conquer this type of thinking is also another great way to apply what you’ve learned here, resulting in a happier, healthier you, and creating a more enjoyable life for those around you.
People mistakenly assume that their thinking is done by their head; it is actually done by the heart which first dictates the conclusion, then commands the head to provide the reasoning that will defend it.
– Anthony de Mello