Failure is something the majority of us fear the most, because “failure” is seen as a negative – also failure is linked to our ego and pain body. The result of this is, beating ourselves up or being really hard on ourselves. I know this first hand, and I know many of you are nodding your head right now.
If I “failed” at something, rather it be missing a free throw in basketball, getting a poor mark on a test, or even being too nervous to ask a girl out, I’d always go home and beat myself up emotionally for a good while, feeding my ego and pain body. This is never a good action to take, because it puts you in a low vibration frequency. And what happens when we enter this vibration? We attract that into our lives. At the time, I never knew this, making it more difficult to bounce back up on my feet and learn from my “failures”, as life always suggests we do.
Now here’s the funny thing about “failure” – it doesn’t exist. I know you’re probably scratching your head and have a raised eyebrow saying, “How does failure not exist?” Let me explain this for you so that you have a new look on the word “failure”.
About two weeks ago while reading a Wayne Dyer book in search of some Life Guidance and Enlightenment, I came across a beautiful chapter titled “Thought”. This chapter shed a whole new light on my perspective about failure. Wayne Dyer suggests that, in life we never fail because everything we do produces results – hence the term First Attempt In Learning (FAIL).
I found this to be really profound, and this simple idea brought a great deal of joy. The more I pondered this idea, the more I realized the truth behind it.
Everything we do in life produces a result, and results are a form of success; it’s just not the desired result (success) we’ve imagined. So whether it be missing a free throw, getting a poor mark on a test, getting turned down from job, getting turned down after asking someone out, not making a lead role in a play etc. All of these things that we see as “failures” in our life, actually aren’t – they are results plain and simple.
All failure is as Dr. Dyer highlights, is someone’s opinion on how we can achieve a certain result. If the way you’ve been advised doesn’t work, no worries – learn from what didn’t work and, create a new way to achieve the result you are after.
Have the Confidence, Willingness, and take the necessary Actions to do what is needed for the results you desire, plain and simple. No need to be hard on yourself or think you’ve failed, because you haven’t.
Now that you know the truth about “failure”, I would like you to make a promise to yourself that you won’t allow the term failure, to hinder you from pursuing the things you desire in this life, because everything we do creates a Result, Not Failure.
Realize there is no such thing as failure. Keep this in mind and you will achieve all that you conceive in your mind. You never fail, you simply produce results. Always results.
– Wayne Dyer